Tell me more, then listen deeply.
In my years coaching and consulting, one of the simplest yet profound strategies to employ and move from heated to personally responsible is to routinize these three words…tell me more.
Tell me more opens the gateway to curiosity and helps to quiet the part of the brain that triggers addicted to being right by spiking cortisol levels. Tell me more activates oxytocin; the bonding hormone. This enables us to connect and seek out new information using our executive brain.
Discovering new information enables us to become more familiar with one another; to find common ground, to see ourselves in that other person, to expand the conversational space and make room for the I inside the WE.
Join me in practicing these three words, then listen deeply. This can empower us to change our experiences and our world. We can begin to build more trust in a world that very much needs it.
