Shareable: Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another. Napolean Hill

The more we operate from the drama triangle within our internal framework, the more we experience this in our external relationships; with our team members, vendors, colleagues and family members. As well, this dynamic can play out in business deals, and in our ability to make a profit.

The more we operate from this dynamic, the less aware we become and the worse we tend to feel often leaving devastation in our wake.

It’s been scientifically proven that our thoughts are electric and our feelings are magnetic thereby creating a field of information that is measurable and perceivable by others. Add to this the attraction factor of this vibe. Yes, like attracts like. The more we stay frustrated or overwhelmed, the more intense that field of information becomes and the more detrimental the impact on ourselves and others.

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Before starting my own business some 25 years ago, I worked as a VP of Sales in the Fashion Industry. During that time, I experienced first hand the impact of leading from the Drama Triangle both as the recipient and sadly as a Leader.

In my years of training as a coach and consultant, I quickly came to realize that my initiation into the Drama Triangle occurred many years before I was leading in a company. It was a dynamic in my family. I found that cathartic to explore and perhaps you might too.

The Karpman Triangle was an adaptation of Eric Berne’s theory of translation analysis.

While transactional analysis is the method for studying interactions between individuals, one researcher postulates that drama-based leaders can instill an organizational culture of drama.

Persecutors are more likely to be in leadership positions and a persecutor culture goes hand in hand with cut throat competition, fear, blaming, manipulation, high turnover and an increased risk of lawsuits.

There are also victim cultures which can lead to low morale and low engagement as well as an avoidance of conflict.

And rescuer cultures which can be characterized as having a high dependence on the leader, low initiative and low innovation. Source credit Wikipedia

90% of all management problems are caused by miscommunication — Dale Carnegie

When you consider it, communication often occurs first at a feeling level. Becoming more aware and present elevates our ability to perceive more clearly and make different choices that drive win win outcomes.

What tools do you use to elevate your awareness and drive win win outcomes ?

One of the fundamental tools used in the Coaching and Consulting, Courageous Leadership Platform for driving win win outcomes is from the conversational intelligence framework.

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